Is it okay if I was suddenly sent off? Psychologists share how to adjust yourself 3 steps to regain confidence

Being sent out is like being broken up, and we can't help but fall into thinking of "Is it not good?" and "Is it not doing much?" But just like the end of a relationship, it is not necessarily because of who is not good, but because they are no longer suitable for each other. The same is true for

When you are sent out, what you lose is not "your value", but an environment that no longer suits you.

In the face of sudden remission, we are likely to experience these feelings repeatedly:

1. Shocking & Unable to accept

"How is it possible? I am obviously working hard, how can I be sent?"

2. Self-doubt & No value

"Is it not good for me? Is it really worthless?"

3. Unwilling to give up & Angry

"Why is it me? Is it a job politics? Or does the boss have a bias towards me?"

Being assigned to the 3-step self-adaptable

Psychologist shared, how to organize emotions and regain confidence after being assigned to the tuition.

STEP 1: Clear the reasons for the grant, reposition yourself

Ask yourself first:

"Is this grant due to external environment or internal factors?"

External reasons | Industry changes, company enrollment, merger

→ It may have no direct relationship with your abilities, but is just an impact under the changes in your career.

→ You can take this opportunity to reflect on how to maintain career competitiveness in the future, such as improving skills, focusing on industry trends, and preparing in advance.

Internal Causes | Performance failure, international relationship problems

→ This is a good adjustment machine, you can think about what you have learned from this experience? Is there any part that can be converted into growth?

STEP 2: Observe the emotions and let yourself calm down from the shock and

allow your negative emotions to appear

to give yourself a period of time to digest the shock and anxiety brought by your resources.

Try writing your feelings (such as diary) and clear "What is the underlying reason for the difficulty?" Only when the emotions are seen can you truly move forward.

Take care for physical and mental health, so that you can be more energetic to maintain normal routine and diet for changes, and avoid long-term immersion in anxiety or loss.

Maintaining regular exercise, even if it is just a simple walk or stretch every day, can help reduce pressure.

STEP 3: Re-examine your career and make your contribution a turnaround

Regarding the work itself, you can ask yourself:

What work contents make me feel accomplished? What makes me tired?

Which part of my work is the most important thing?

What are my favorite jobs in the past? Which ones do you absolutely don’t want to live with?

Does this time reflect a certain job risk? For example, the uncertainty of the industry and the substitutability of skills?

Regarding yourself, you can ask yourself:

Does your family, friends, interest, and health be ignored because of work?

Have you been pursuing success in your career and ignoring the life you really want?

Do you often feel that you have nothing but work?

If you can't bear the shock, anger and sense of value after being sent out on your own, you can talk to the psychologist about your experience and feelings through psychological counselors, and through this period of time, you will regain your sense of security and make this departure a better start.