After seeing his full-time father, Zhou Yumin discovered that he had to "reward" a lot of time to be energetic on his daughter, and he could only say that he was "exhausted", and the acting was actually a "relaxation"! Compared with the lives of countless mothers with all their responsibilities, this kind of "exhausted" is almost always happening without any day or night, and it rarely gets the recognition it deserves.
Zhou Yumin Yu's health is exhausted: I'll have a good job if I have a child, or should I be at home with my children? It is best to have a better answer after the actual answer.The man Zhou Yumin (Zai Zai) and his wife Yu Hongqing have a daughter of more than 4 years old. In 2020, they have been in Taiwan for one year and often have children at home. When he was asked at the reporter's meeting whether to have a second child, he said with emotion, "Don't you say it? I don't like to plan, whether it's okay, whether it's okay or not. His parents are very energetic to give it to their children. We are both parents who are exhausted, and we are exhausted in one of them."
He himself does not have the pressure to have a second child, and it is really hard to take a child, so many things will be exhausted when raising a child!
Zaizai's most disastrous work during her full-time father's life was "panic". He said that he might be born to be an actor. "I don't have the ability to stay at home for too long. I will feel a little panicked if I take a few days off. I don't know what I can do." On the contrary, when playing, when I live in the role, "It's a way to relax, private life and life. To achieve a balance in life, you don’t have to be a full-time father all the time.”
This feeling is like asking a mother who left her job to take care of her children: "Do you panic when you see office workers on the road?" For mothers who may have been shining on the job site, it is really a relief if they can go back to those moments of pursuing ideals and being trapped in the face. Although most mothers have no way back.
Zaizai spent a year and understood that it is impossible to have a childbirth. When there are always setbacks, he said, “When I see my daughter is very attached to her mother, I want to share some pressure and physical strength, I can’t help feeling frustrated! My daughter will feel that there is a gap between me for too long and not with her. That kind of frustration is a kind of frustration. I want to work hard but I don’t feel the result."
At the same time, from the answer of Vic Chou, I can also make up the dilemma of my wife’s nurturing. When the reporter asked Yu Hongqing when she would take a photo, Zaizai immediately replied without thinking: "She didn’t have that time, and her daughter was just sticking to her mother."
As for what kind of persistence do she have in teaching? Zaizai smiled and said, "Because he gave birth to a daughter, he couldn't get up." As a daughter, he only asked his children to be handsome and elegant in speaking. Most of the important responsibilities of educating their daughters fell on their wives.
Zaizai is willing to spend a year with his wife and daughter wholeheartedly. Although he felt frustrated during the process, he has done a great job! Wei Wei Zhi, a lecturer in professional education, said that most fathers must wait until the baby is born before they can have a further physical relationship with their father's job. These differences are one of the reasons why men always start slowly and learn slowly in the road to childbirth.
If you want to be familiar with the big and small things of childbirth, men usually have "congenital deficiencies and acquired misalignment". Apart from childhood memories, there are most likely no male subjects who can imitate (with nurturing skills). When your wife is pregnant, it is 280 days longer than women before she can feel the real existence of the child.
As the times change, Wei Wei Zhi believes that men must re-understand their father's identity, and realize that in addition to economic support, more companionship and participation can make the family more harmonious and the family more closely related.
The traditional father role is not familiar with or close to the child since childhood, and when the child grows up, when he does not understand the child, he often can only interact with the child in the form of authority and command. Therefore, it often creates a separation between the child, especially when the child is adolescence, because the relationship is not cultivated at childhood, it will be more difficult to communicate when rebellious.
Tip 1: Dad is also a boy! Mom, don’t interfere, otherwise your father will rebel
It is precisely because he is unfamiliar. When it comes to learning related skills for parenting, the role of mother is very important. Wei Wei Zhi emphasized that if a father wants to devote himself to parenting, then what mother needs to do is to be at ease, let go, and not interfere. The hands are not broken, so that the partner can continue to try and practice, just like treating children learning new things, encourage and praise more. Only when the father gradually cultivates his self-confidence and sense of accomplishment can his father become stronger and he will be more willing to participate in nurturing together.
Because I am deeply afraid that the baby will feel uncomfortable, it will be difficult for my mother to not interfere, but as long as I believe that the baby is safe, if my father loves children, it will be easier to feel at ease and let go, and at the same time, it will give my partner more and more familiar with the childcare skills. Otherwise, if I intervene because I can't stand it and get dissatisfied, it will only cause my father's rebellion and disgust. In the end, I simply don't touch the child or give it to my mother when I cry.
Tip 2: Starting with simple play, you must not ask your father to sleep the first thing you want to take care of him.
When your father is willing to take the initiative to participate in childbirth, your mother only needs to be at ease, let go, and encourage her more. However, if your father still stays in traditional thinking about the transformation of his father's job, your mother must also be patient and patient, so that she can help her partner slowly become familiar with how to take care of her baby.
For example: start with a simple task of delivering, slowly increase care time from 10 minutes, etc.. Wei Wei Zhi reminds that you should never give difficult tasks at the beginning, such as: coaxing to sleep, and it is recommended that you start by playing with and reading a story book.
Tip 3: Take habitual companionship from just 10 minutes after holidays or after get off work, and arrange for periods when your husband is more affordable. For example: If your husband has a huge work pressure, it is good to start from a week to schedule a holiday period. If your father's work responsibility can be removed after get off work, you can gradually accumulate from playing with him for 10 minutes every day, so that your father can first cultivate his feelings from interaction with his children, and then gradually develop the feeling of "wanting to spend more time with his children".
Tip 4: Assessing should be specific and choose the good part
Since nurturing is a common thing for couples, the way to give praise is also very important. If you just say "Thank you for your help", the implication means that the mother believes that this is the responsibility of the mother. The father's assistance is just a matter of accidental and more, so it is better to specifically express "the diaper bag is really good" or "the baby likes to play with you", etc., so it is better to increase the husband's confidence in childbirth skills.
Even if the teacher's skills are not yet mature, Wei Wei suggested that he should praise the part he did well in order to encourage the husband to practice and believe that he can do better at one time.